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Ms Tytania in the media

I generally keep a very low profile in the BDSM scene. I’ve never been keen on “appearances”, fawning entourages, or assaulted by eagerness to attend the opening of an envelope. I haven’t been to a fetish club in ages and I don’t seek that fake demi-celebrity status that being a pro-Domme seems to give you as soon as you have a shop window in the internet. I do enjoy private play aprties (specially those organized by myself), but in general, i am a private kinkster.

In ten years as a professional Dominatrix, I’ve been approached by the media on a good number on occassions. Sometimes for TV, sometimes for magazines. They all introduce themselves with the same story: “we are working on a feature that will present BDSM/kink/sexuality/professional domination form a different angle, in a different, more sympathetic light, to a wider audience. We are very interested in your opinion, your experience, your point of view, because it’s not the archetypal whips and chains shocker setting”. I’ve always declined.

Eventually, another Pro-Domme/s I know or know about, agrees to work with them. The results are always the same. Because the TV or magazine/newspapers have the last say in the editing of the final product, the pro-Domme is presented in a way that she wasn’t intending. I gave up long ago on the hope of using these opportunities as a platform to be heard and to dispel myths. They twist and re-interpret your voice to their onw end and  aenda (wow, th media do that? No crap, Mistress!”, I hear you say :)). They rarely end up manufacturing the product they promised to you. As I heard Zoe Margolis saying the other day at the Eroticon 2013 Conference, the media always has the upper hand. One reason is because the people who approach us, are outsiders to BDSM. They say they know nothing about our world and want us to present it in our own words, but that’s a fallacy. They may not nothing of its reality, but they have an opinion and mental image, before they even contact me. And this fictional idea of BDSM as whips and chains for freaks, always prevails, it’s usually a very stereotypical view that triumphs.

In my opinion, TV and the media are simply bread and circus, nothing more. they aren’t interested in “whowing your world in a sympatheitc light”. They are only interested in their shock hungry audiences and we kinky people, are perfect victims to throw into the lion’s jaws.

And the stereoype is what is going to prevail. When the interview goes into the editing room or page, they invariably choose what sounds familiar, what seems to make sense with a popular misconceptions of Pro-fessionsl Dominance, kink, or BDSM. The media want to reassure their public, not to challenge it. Every time someone else accepted to be on TV or a amgazine, that’s how they came acroiss.

This time, however, and after meeting with the producers for a real life meeting, it felt a little different. I’m probablyjust being naive, but I decided to give  them the benefit of the doubt. so I’ve said yes to collaborating on a TV program on “alternative sexualities” – yes, tentatively- to a project for a major TV channel. They want me to be some sort of :expert consultant” on a feature about kidnapping fetishes. I’ve been doing a bit of that lately with The Femdom Bloc and yes, I think I know my stuff. But do they know theirs? So I’ve decided to take the plunge and say yes. Even if I have veto over the final script, I know I hae no veto over the final edited product. so fingers crossed.

Next time you see another cliche ridden program on those freaky kinky people on TV, who knows, it may partly be my fault. Blame Ms Tytania for selling out to the paps.

Click on the image to find out more about our bespoke kidnapping scenes.

 

EROTICON 2013

I’ve just been invited to take part in a panel discussion on blogging for sex workers, at the forthcoming EROTICON 2013. A conference for people who write sex blogs. There seems to be a lot of interest in women, specially, writing about their sex lives, and to be even more precise, on women’s submission on the written page. No prizes for guessing that this sudden interest owes a lot to the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenom. There are so many blogs, many of them excellent, written by women who explore their sexualities and anlyse them, that I wouldn’t know where to start to recommend the best ones. it’s no wonder that a conference is organized, for the second year running, to discuss this and to help bloggers meet each other. We live online too much, I think!

I w2as pleased to be invited, because there are a lot of lifestyle women invited to the conference, but a conspicuous absence of professional sex workers. As if it was assumed that we are only interested in doing our thang, then go home and count our money. without a need to stop and ponder about our career, which takes up so much time in our lives, that that teaches us and others so much. Yes, escorts and dominatrices write blogs too.

 

I’m pondering on what it is I’m going to talk about. First of all, that I rite blogs to reach a type of client that will feel more satisfied by a Domme who sounds real and multi-faceted, multidimensional, not just a fantasy in latex. This aproach attracts clients whose company and sessioning I enjoy for more reasons than just the fact that they contribute to my livelihood. LIke minded play partners make for amazaingly awesome sessions.

Playing is a two way thing. When I feel there is no connection, it;s a one way street. i feel that I’m giving and giving, trying to read my sub’s mind, and getting nothing in return.

 

My best sessions, I’ve had them with people who followed me here, or on Twitter, or on the occasional BDSM forum. They are intrigued by the person behind the mask. I am also interested in the real person behind the paying client.

So once again, I guess that I’m going to find myself explaining how, despite this being my job, i try to get more than just hard cash from it. That all the technological advances and online platforms available, area tool to reach not only a wide audience, but to narrow it down to those who feel an empathy with me. To cast my wide net, to become more accurate and precise, in a way.

 

It’s a shame that most blogs written form a male sub;’s point of view, are in general fantasies and Femdom fiction, or simply, lyrical flattery of specific favourite Dommes. You rarely read about their experiences, emotions, how they feel. is it perhaps a female thing? I’definitely would love to read more about what goes on inside a sub’s head. I hear about it in session, in my pre and post session talk. But it would benefit male subs no end, if they write more about themselves and helped dispel negative myths about male submission.

UNDERGROUND FEMDOM! KIDNAPPING AND INTERROGATION

This page is for full on, no frills, fetish kinknapping and abduction scenarios. For extended caging and isolation only sessions, go here: Caging & Captivity or Extended inescapable rope bondage sessions.

Ms Tytania & Ms Slide’s Bespoke Kidnappings, interviewed on Bizarre Magazine! Read the article here.

 

FEMDOM KINKNAPPING FOR BRAVE BOYS

Pampered, perfumed London Mistresses by day… but at night, urban Chicks Ms Tytania and Ms Slide, ditch the bland comforts of the boudoir, to capture, drag off the streets and interrogate, helpless members of the inferior male species.

Last week, we undertook the no small feat of kidnapping a a male for an UNDERGROUND scenario. We chose a dark January night, and the narrow alley ways of East London. Directed to a remote backyard in an industrial estate, our victim carried a bunch of white roses to be recognized. From our car, we recognized him immediately by his nerves. “Everybody is staring at me funny”, he texted. As if anyone would care!

Passer-bys could hardly bat an eyelid at a man being handcuffed, dragged and taken inside a car parked in a quiet, dimly lit London street.

Driving to the Cell was easy: blindfolded, he couldn’t guess where he was being taken.

 


Once in the Cell, he was subjected to a harsh regime of bondage, caging, kicking, and enforced indoctrination into Female Supremacy. Piss-boarding, the Urban Chick Supremacy Cell’s very own contribution to revolutionary urban warfare, was needed to soften his stubborn macho brains. Enforced anal occupation was undertaken by a zesty, enthusiastic Ms Slide.

UNDERGROUND sessions are Ms Tytania and Ms Slide’s dominant passtime du jour. Males are welcome to submit to a full kidnapping, hostage and interrogation by email. Find out more by clicking on the link.

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To all the shy, coy and new sluts in the making

When is the next Slutathon and how can I attend? Find out here!

 

The Slutathon Fairy has been dealing with an exceptional amount of emails from eager, curious, but inexperienced sluts in the making. They all ask the same question: is the Slutathon for me, or am I going to be pushed nt the deep end of slutty depravity without as much as (cock)floating ring to help me  wade through this sea of strapons, tthi river of live and cum?.

Becaue all new sluts think that everybody at the Slutthon is very experienced, and they are the shy duckling who’ve been missing out on The fun all these years.

You couldn’t be more wrong. I forced bi there’re and opportunities were so easy to find, there would be no need for the Grand Slutathon. But  a bunch of Mistresses got together a few years ago, and oticed the gap in the world of kink. A fun, relaxed, yet deeply depraved gathering I like minded boywhores nd their commanding Mistresses, rimed with strapons of unusual lengths and girths.

Our Slutathon Fairy has been wading through a eritble ea of enquiries  from nervou beginners just like ou: who’ve fantasised many times about being unconditionally instructed by a Mistress, into sucking real flesh cock. Or who’ve dreamed of being taken spit roast style, mercilessly, by two rampant Dommes armed with strapon. A weapon tht doeSn’t need a rest. Unlike real boy cock!

S to answer your nervous curiosity: myself, Ms Tytania, Nd my lady friends who orchest rate the Grand Slutathon, are delighted to ease all new and coy sluts into the  action. With ourcoaching through the afternoon, we’ve seen boys bloom, from shy inexperienced sluts, into sluty kings of the Slut Bed of Shame.

 

Imply email me and ask. You have nothing to lose, other than tht nagging, persistent need to suck cocglory to be taken by a gang of rampant women :

You can still attend the next Slutthon on Wednesday, Dec 19th. It’s not too late yet, but hurry!

begandgrovel@mstytania.net

 

Shibari Domina Extraordinaire is back!

My passion for shibari and rope bondage has never been away, but I’m revamping that site for a lot of reasons. One, becaue I love tying people up. Two, because I have a vast archives of photos that need to be aired and published for th enjoyment of those who love shibari and Femdom, all rolled into one. and three, but no less important, to summon and tempt those who actually love the idea and praxis of Shibai and femdom, all rolled into one, compact, Mistress of her rope.

My shibari website now features some larger versions ove well lvoed photos: Ms Tytania – Shibari Domina Extraordinaire. Click on photo to visit it:

My new Tumblr Photoblog, where I intend to showcase my now huge archives of rope and shibari sessions, wirkshops, club nigts… and link to other like minded shibari aficionados.

 

Finally, why not join me on Twitter, where my alter ego Shibari_Domina no lives?