Femdom Open Studio – Meet Ms Tytania & Her Friends


Back by clamouring, popular demand! Escape your work obligations in a Femdom oasis where you can indulge in your need to worship the superior female and her friends, while I catch up with all the gossip Fetish scene gossip.

You can now meet Ms Tytania & her dominant lady friends at her Canary Wharf Femdom Studio Tea Afternoons and show them how much you want to serve and adore them and of course, surrender to their fickle games and desires.


Where: At Tytania Towers

When: twice a month, from 4pm till 8pm. Drop by at ay time within this window of opportunity.


Jan – 10th & 30th

Feb – 8TH & 27TH

March – 6th & 29th

April – 5th & 30th

May – 7th & 31st

June – 5th & 28th

July – 5th & 31st

What’s this marvellous Femdom Tea Party & Open Studio? So I’ll be organising a regular tea, cake and prosecco party for my Dominant lady friends and myself. And you, my fans and devotees, are welcome to join us from 3pm until 8pm.


This is a private Tea & Prosecco party and therefore, cheaper and more relaxed than a one to one Femdom session. You’ll enjoy being in the company of myself and my lady friends, waiting upon us, being obedient, and being punished or rewarded, depending on your behaviour. There will also be other male specimens present. Expect rope bondage, high protocol, Mistress worship, moderate spanking (if deserved); light bondage… and much banter and humilliation to make your ears ring. You can admire and worship my finely turned out friends in winter boots and high heels and be their puppy and plaything. Or have you dreamed of being our human furniture?


Due to many confused inquiries, please note: the ladies will be enjoying a tea afternoon in a relaxed atmosphere where you ensure they are pampered and waited upon. Therefore: NO nudity, unless requested by the ladies; NO play such as: strapon; water sports; forced-bi; severe corporal punishment – or any activities that require full attention, high levels of hygiene and specialism. You can apply for a regular session, at the normal tribute, if that’s what you want to enjoy.

TRIBUTE: £80 per hour. Payment on arrival. We also welcome little seasonal gifts like a bottle of Prosecco, quality tea, cake, pastries and chocolates.

Email Ms Tytania to book your place. A £20 deposit is required, to guarantee availability – places are very limited! So don’t leave it till the last minute, make some space in your busy holidays diary for this Femdom Christmas Party!

begandgrovel@mstytania.net – +44 (0)7966186305

HOW TO PAY THE DEPOSIT: CHECK MY CONTACT & TRIBUTE PAGE FOR DETAILS and email/call/text/Whatsapp Ms Tytania for details.

Christmas Open Studio Party

Not just for Christmas! Regular Femdom Open Studio Parties – 2019

WHEN- FRIDAY, DECEMBER 28TH 2018 – 4pm – 8pm.

WHERE- At Tytania Towers, East London E14.

Ms Tytania doesn’t really do Christmas, but if she did… it’d be the best Christmas party ever! And you can now and test it in her Canary Wharf Femdom Studio.

Escape the Christmas obligations in a Femdom oasis where you can indulge in your need to worship the superior female and her friends.

So I’ll be organising a little tea, mince pies and prosecco party for my Dominant lady friends and myself. And you, my fans and devotees, are welcome to join us from 3pm until 8pm.

So what will happen? This is a Femdom Christmas Tea & Prosecco party. You’ll enjoy being in the company of myself and my lady friends, waiting upon us, being obedient, and being punished or rewarded, depending on your behaviour. Expect rope bondage, high protocol, Mistress worship, corporal punishment and much banter and humilliaton to make your ears ring. You can admire and worship my finely turned out friends in winter boots and high heels and be their puppy and plaything. Or have you dreamed of being our human furniture?

Tribute: £60 for the first hour, then £50 for each extra hour. Payment on arrival. We also welcome little seasonal gifts like the off bottle of Prosecco, quality tea and chocolates.


Email Ms Tytania to book your place. A £20 deposit is required, to guarantee availability – places are very limited! So don’t leave it till the last minute, make some space in your busy holidays diary for this Femdom Christmas Party!

begandgrovel@mstytania.net – +44 (0)7966186305


Only for the brave… Femdom wet shave with straight razor

Ms Tytania has a steady hand and can leave that face baby smooth with one of her new steel straight razors. Fancy a wet shave? Maybe a test wet shave of your precious balls? After a warm, soapy lathering and hot towel? In bondage. Under a tight silky cape. Immobilised, on her vintage barber’s chair. Trust me, I’m a Fetish Femdom Barberette and I’m full of fun ideas!

Ms Tytania’s japanese rope bondage skills – a testimonial

I unashamedly present you with some feedback regarding my Japanese rope bondage, suspension and shibari skills: a glowing testimonial form a very experienced rope bottom and femdom sub who won’t forget our 5 hour long rope session any time soon. the long afternoon included abandonment in rope, rope suspension, various hogties, floor rope ties and predicament bondage. This is the happiness in kink and fetish that I always aspire to offer: a chance to explore your fetishes with an experienced, creative, non-judgemental Domme. Where is my next rope bunny?

And here is, Specimen D, in his happy place:



Since 2009, when I organised my first Grand Slutathon, for myself and my lady friends’ lust for strapon and pegging boys, we’ve had many satisfied, truly slutted-out boy sluts and man whores raving about theie experience. After the Grand Slutathon ran its course (but you never know), I started the now famous Slut Bed Of Shame Multi Mistress, Forced Bi Party. Here are some testimonials, so you can see what you are missing and hopefully, will leave your misgiving aside and join us to explore your inner  manwhore:



Revolutionary Femdom Tax


Is a full kidnapping perhaps too scary, too dear for your tight fisted male arse? How about 2 hours BEING STALKED by a fearless, cunning female dominant in the streets? Let’s play Femdom Hide And Seek. We’ve got our eyes on you: attend the rendezvous and pay the Revolutionary Femdom Tax. But finding us is the fun bit… follow our directions using  Global Positioning System(GPS) receiver on your mobile phone and let’s play Femdom Hide And Seek.

2 hours geo-caching style manhunt, street stalking and ransom payment: £500 (deposit required).

Femdom Manhunt Mission: Stalked for the Revolutionary Femdom Tax: This is what we did to a male specimen like you. You can be our next prey in the streets of London.

How does this work? As part of her exciting UNDERGROUND domination, Ms Tytania has designed a new Femdom game: the spy/double agent rendezvous story, reimagined for Femdom. Wait for Ms Tytania to decide on the place, after agreeing on the time and date… be there and wait for the adrenaline to rush… she will follow you down the streets, while sending direction on your phone. Be ready for google Maps, sms instructions & much, mush stalking and confusion, till she decides it’s time to strike and pounce on you to demand the Revolutionary Femdom Tax.

You will meet us several times: perhaps in a cafe, where our agent is inconspicuously enjoying a latte and a book, to pass orders; in a quiet alley, she may be waiting for you, to give you instructions in an envelope… Excited yet?

All you need is a smart phone and google Maps, and the UC-SC‘s Revolutionary Femdom Tax ready to be handed in an envelope in your pocket. Be summoned at a previously agreed location within London; wait for instructions, directions and orders to reach you via sms or Whatsapp. Follow the map; follow instructions; retrieve the objects hidden for you at different locations, nooks and crannies… wonder when and where and how, your Femdom Tax Agent will appear, undetected, and demand your ransom money. Expect red herrings and decoys. Be confused, but still feel compelled to obey: you shall know what’s like to be chased like prey by a dominant woman. Be male prey to a the Femocracy. Then, suddenly and unexpectedly, she’ll appear from nowhere in a dark alley. Pay promptly and she’ll instruct you back into the real world. Like previous specimens, you may need a stiff drink after the experience!

£200 per hour. Deposit required. Full ransom paid on location and at our agent’s discretion.


Tying up and suspending big boys… upside down!


Holding you by your dick, just in case you slip? I don’t think that H&S would approve! But I deserve to have my heels kissed at the very least, I think. My rope sessions page: Shibari Domina Extraordinaire.

The Facility – jailing, imprisonment & detainment event, Feb 13th

On February 13th, I’ll be gust Warden at The Facility, goddess cleo’s jail fantasy event. I’ll attend in full UC-SC – Urban Chick Supremacy Cell mode, ready to crush the male and impose a merciless femdom regime for our male prisoners (you, male scum!): under the boots of fierce femme wardens. Full re-education into female supremacy will be enforced by myself.

Full info & booking details here.

Do you fantasise about being jailed, or perhaps you have the desire to experience a complete lockdown, or retained on remand for a short/long term incarceration, overseen by beautiful, stern Duty Wardens…  If you have, then The Facility may very well be exactly your cup of tea!  Imagine being imprisoned behind bars, detained in a cell, kept captive in a cage, locked in an isolation unit, or confinedin a cupboard, whilst intermittently being beaten, broken, tormented and quite possibly tortured by gorgeous, strict, Dominant women?  Well here is your chance… Be incarcerated by Goddess Cleo and her beautiful friends, who may decide to hogtie you on the floor, cuff you to the chair, saran wrap you to the bench then sit back to watch you struggle, encase you in a straight jacket if you misbehave, or strap you down to the bed with hospital grade restraints if you attempt to escape…

FacilityThis event is primarily based around imprisonmentincarcerationisolationconfinementdetentionrestraintand complete lockdown.  There may, however, be multiple variations on each activity in order to achieve the desired experience, including but not limited to bondagecagingsaran wrap/cling filmcuffschaincollar/leashstraight jacketshibari, etc, as well as other forms of torture, if the Duty Wardens so desire.



Look at that massive strapon, the  opera length rubber gloves, the determination in my face! Are you ready to surrender to my female cock?

From a humble finger exploration to fisting, and of course, without forgetting my impressive arsenal of strapon dildos and harnesses, I am a dedicated, passionate Pegging Mistress. 


From parties to one to one sessions, from eager anal virgins to consumate fisting veterans, I welcome and satisfy all anal sluts in my East London Studio. My strapon dildos are my weapons of mass domination!

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Abandoned to his fate in inescapable rope

Last week’s captivity and immobilisation specimen: fully restrained and abandoned in rope bondage… and a spot of predicament bondage to keep his attention as required. When not required,  specimen lied at my feet on the floor, inescapably, while I sat on the sofa answering your many emails and inquiries, and demanded to have my boots kissed and worshipped. Read more about my extended rope captivity & abandonment only sessions by clicking on that link.N-hogtie feb 17_2_result

Extended isolation and confinement in rope bondage

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NOTE: for the avoidance of confusion, I’m a Shibari Domme. I don’t offer steel bondage sessions, I use rope and exceptional rope skills to bind men to my will.

For rope fiends who love being confined and left alone in a corner for an extended, undisturbed time, I offer extended rope bondage bundling-up & isolation sessions.

Please note that, unlike normal cell/cage incarceration and isolation, I have to keep an eye on the rope and possible issues with blood circulation, limbs going numb, etc, so the types of bondage have to be checked and changed regularly throughout the duration of the imprisonment.

– 1 hour caging and isolation time: £80
– 1 hour caging and isolation + 1 hour session: £280
– 3 hour combined session (1 hour play + 2 hr isolation): £360
– 3 hour combined play (2hr play + 1 hour isolation): £480
– 2nd play hour and longer: £160 ph.

A recent testimonial:

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More about my extended incarceration & imprisonment sessions.


A crawl-in closet cage in my Boudoir


Been a bratty boy? Has Mistress lost patience with you? You need some isolation away time, caged in my closet cage under the clothes rack!

Inbuilt in one of my clothes and accessories wardrobes, there is a little, dark but surprisingly roomy, closet to hide bad sluts in. so while I’m doing my toilette, changing clothes, putting my rubber or my fully seamed stockings on… my sluts are frustratingly handcuffed, bundled and incarcerated in my crawl-in closet cage. Fancy an hour or two to calmly meditate and reflect on your many slutty sins? Or perhaps you’ve displeased me and you need to be discarded, out away like unwanted shoes? I have a place just for you…

More details on my caging and isolation sessions page.




As luck may have it, I bumped into an old scene friend who wasted no time in telling me all this latest adventures as a boy whore: clubs, parties, orgies, filming… and it did sound as if the boy enjoyed not only the company of powerful women, but also, indulging in boy on boy action, cock-sucking and spit-roasting, to please the ladies.

So I couldn’t resist adding him to my arsenal of kink activities and pleasures. now he’s available for forced-bi sessions in my presence.

He is now available for forced-bi sessions, both as male and also in his stunning cd, cross-dressing tranny slut persona, to whore his delicious boy bits out to other boys, to please Mistress. I do like to watch my boy on boy action and fun as they are, parties weren’t enough to satisfy my own lust for watching men please other men.

Unfortunately, he doesn’t live in my cupboard under the stairs, so this type of session has to be planned and booked in advance, to ensure availability. Please email me to request an appointment.

Dec 7th: STRAPON & forced-bi party!


When: December 7th, 2016.
Save the date! I’ll be strutting my rampant stuff at Domina Parties’ Double STRAPON & forced-bi party.
Don’t contact me! Use the contact details on the page (link above), to guarantee your place. I’ve joined forces with Goddess Cleo‘s famous, extravagant, Domina Parties  – to bring my own love of strapon, forced-bi and slut parties to my admirers and to enjoy it in the company of world famous Dominas..
A multi Mistress party isn’t a party  with a gang of like minded dominant women getting together, plotting the details, polishing our female cocks in preparation for a good STRAPON party. So now, we are bigger, meaner and much more creative together.
So now, my legendary Grand Slutathon  and the Slut Bed Of Shame, take part in collaboration with Domina Parties. Our deviant minds working inspect harmony, to bring you the most exciting femdom parties in London.
Times, venue and payment details on this page. Contact Domina Parties ASAP to avoid disappointment! Together, we the Mistresses are stronger!

Guest Mistresses will be:


My boudoir locker cage

Some of you have asked me what this wondrous sounding contraption is. Well, my lock-in wardrobe contains a gated closet where my captives can be caged. So yes, you will effectively be imprisoned in my boudoir’s clothes closet, under my fragrant rubber and lingerie! Here are two photos of my lock-in wardrobe (as well as my puppy cage, for other types of caging):



For those who enjoy being confined and forgotten in a cage of very small cell, my caging and captivity sessions are ideal.

And not only in my studio! Be imprisoned by myself and a gang of merciless Lady Wardens at Domina Parties’ The Facility event – next event, February 13th 2018.

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Some of you enjoy a combined session where there is play time with Mistress, and also, incarceration time either at the beginning or the end of the one to one session. Here are the relevant tributes:

– 1 hour caging and isolation time: £60
– 1 hour caging and isolation + 1 hour session: £260
– 3 hour combined session (1 hour play + 2 hr isolation): £320
– 3 hour combined play (2hr play + 1 hour isolation): £460
– 2nd play hour and longer: £160 ph.
Inescapable rope bondage captivity, for rope & imprisonment fans: £80 per hour (please note that a person tied up with rope can’t be left alone and needs to be checked for circulation issues, numb limbs, etc, and rope ties have to be changed and altered regularly).
Overnight sessions: captivity and also Femdom service.

And don’t forget to check out my secret lock-in boudoir closet – get caged in my clothes wardrobe!



Due to an enormous amount of enquiries, I’ve decided to offer some pilot overnight sessions. An overnight session starts in the evening, around 7 pm (exact time to be agreed on), and lasts until 10 am the morning after.An overnight session normally starts at 7 pm and finishes at 10 am, with a 7am sharp waking up call to be my toy! 15 hours at my beck and call. Tribute can be found in my contact page.


I’m also experimenting with extended, daytime, 6 hours sessions. You can check in at Tytania Towers from 10 am till 12pm, amuse me, serve me, be my toy and victim, my human guinea pig… and be released just in time for dinner… refreshed after a whole day in a world that only exists in your fantasies… and in my Canary Wharf Studio. Tribute in my contact page too.


Favourite activities for these sessions can include, but are not limited to: bondage, captivity, domestic servitude, entertaining my visiting dominant friends, enforced punishment and corporal punishment, interrogation; hypnotism practice; feminisation; enforced feminist indoctrination; caging; role play in many forms; and anything your saturated submissive mind and her wicked imagination can concoct. Normally, she will retire no later than midnight.  A £200 deposit is required. Email me to find out more: begandgrovel@mstytania.net



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The Department For The Ladies’ Well-Being



At my Femdom HQ, Tytania Manor. Take a tour of my lifestyle.

The Department is an immersive femdom experience for real women who want to awake the inner Dominant in them: live an afternoon in my Femdom household, living and learning the secrets of Female Supremacy and female-oriented kink. By women, for women, to the women.  Lessons in domination and female supremacy, But not as you know them – this is no workshop, but the real thing.

The Department For The Ladies’ Well-Being is an educational project to tame the male species for the benefit and pleasure of the superior species (female) and to educate the superior sex (female) into the ways and advantages of Female Supremacy. We open our doors to give you erotic power.

This is not a workshop or tutorial. but an immersive experience where you will experience and enjoy a real London Domina’s lifestyle, in her stylish and well equipped fetish apartment. Meet my Mistress friends and use our male playthings to hone and polish your natural dominance.

My Open Studio Days welcome women who feel a need to discover or improve their Dominance, by stepping into my lifestyle for an afternoon. Join me, my Domme friends and playthings, and submerge yourself in fetish tailored for the female tastes and desires.

We are the civilised, tea drinking prossecco swigging, cake eating, chaise-longe lounging side of Femdom. the male species is limited to its role as facilitator of our idle, decadent lifestyle as pets, servants, domestics and skivvies.

Sophisticated, experiended London Dominas by day… but when we are angry at men’s uselessness and frustrating clumsiness and entitlement, we kick off our heels and become the Urban Chicks. But that’s another story!

For now, The Department – DFLW-B, is a Femdom, female centred space where dominant women share their experiences and train other ladies into Female Supremacy. Each day, with each new hopeful recruit or trainee lady, we become closer to a world where women rule. Our goal, yes, is to establish Universal Female Supremacy in each household. To make women’s lives sophisticated, stylish and toil free. To relegate the male species to its rightful place: a complaint floor slug.

I have introduced women to the joys and secrets of Femdom for years, giving tutorials, couples training and advise for married couples who want to introduce elements of D/s and Femdom into their relationship. Many Mistresses offer that kind of training.

The Department For the Ladies’ Well-Being, however, is not a tutorial of a class. Is the chance for women, either single or with partners, to step into a Femdom gathering and experience the Femdom lifestyle in my own home and studio.

Men are trained at the Department’s Open Studio Days (link). But special soirees are organised, where new ladies are welcome to take part and learn, ask questions, improve their skills and meet other dominant ladies. We are a femdom network.

Individual tutorials tailored to each ladies’ specifications, can be considered after an introductory afternoon at the Department’s Open Studio.

The price is £150 per woman or £200 per couple, for a 4 hour immersive experience. Single male specimens need not apply.

Email Ms Tytania to book a Mistress Class: begandgrovel@mstytania.net

Males, however, may apply to serve me an my Dominant friends, many professional London Dommes and lifestyle Dommes, at my Open Studio Days (click on link for more).


A Trampling Session

The Magic of Corsets

Mistress by day… but I fear that my fearless femme commandos, the Urban Chicks will want a word with me, after I acquired no less than FIVE new corsets. But before I am dragged to a UC-SC disciplinary tribunal for crimes of objectification and falling into the trap of traditional Femdom, here is a gallery of my new corsets (more photos on the way soon).

Hair Fetish boy’s first appointment at the Salon

Met a boy with hair fetish today. He was hard as soon as he walked through the door. His kink: everything hair related. To let go in the hands of a fetish hair grooming specialist and feel the buzz of the electric razor on is skin, while I whisper… “will I shave your eyebrows too or not? At least one!”

So I tied him to the barber chair and commenced. I played with my electric clippers, shaving my initials on his furry belly. Pubic hair came later, scrotum hair, then just a tiny, tiny, half inch wedge on his scalp. He was mine when I ran my fingers through his hair and scalp, down th neck, fingertips first, then my nails… I had to tie him to the suspension rigging so I could shave his underarm hair (shockingly hairy!), chest and belly. To access the furthest recesses of his rump, I had to handcuff him and bend him over the buggery bench. Buzzzz again with my clippers, and bum, sack and crack were smooth as a frog’s. I took the opportunity to insert a buttplug in his tight, but very yielding, arse. I guess the smooth skin made things glide in more easily. Back on the barber’s chair, buttplug in, erection glorious and indefatigable. I warned him that if he was allowed to cum, I was going to style his hair with his own cum. Into his ear, while shaving the wispy fluff on is neck. He didn’t last long. I couldn’t stop wondering after he left: how many boys have a tent in their pants while sitting at the hair salon? Do the lady hairdressers notice? Not many Mistresses cater for this kink. But if you are into all things hair and control, or are in dire need of a good body shearing, ahead cropping or a wet shave in the hands of an erotic, domineering specialist lady… have a look at   The Evidence: Click on the photo above to go to his freshly written testimonial The Salon For Enforced Grooming & Shaving, my latest venture into the less trodden paths of kink. All limits respected, but adventurous gentlemen always welcome to discuss their fantasies. Because no two kinksters are the same, no two session comparable.

Mistress of the Erotic Art of Japanese Rope Bondage

Here is a tiny sample of what Ms Tytania is capable of doing with rope. As an accomplished Shibari Mistress, her rope bondage sessions are a feast for the eyes, the senses and the imagination.

Also as a blog entry: Submission in red: submissive boy hogtied in red rope, under my red leather DM boots.


View a full photo gallery of this Japanese Rope bondage suspension by clicking on the hyperlink or on the photo tryptich, above.

Planet Shibari: Ms Tytania boldly takes her securely, shibari – bound specimen where no rope bunny has been before.


Hogtie, facesitting and suspension.

After hogtying my subject on the floor, I had to indulge in a spot of facesitting. It didn’t take much to persuade me that rope suspension was the next step towards his total helplessness and immobilization. Shibari does the job every single time!


Japanese rope bondage and suspension in rubber.

Rope bondage, rope suspension… and shiny rubber!


Two Mistresses in rubber, one male specimen and miles of rope.

Ms Tytania and a dominant friend enjoy an evening in, tying up a male slave in rope. Hogties, humiliation and a shibari feast ensues!


How Backlash UK helped me beat ATVOD’s bullying

I am a professional Dominatrix and Femdom video producer who, as some of you already know, was targeted by ATVOD last year. After a long year battle against this dodgiest of UK quangos and their racketeering tactics and bullying, they withdrew their determination that I was a TV on demand service, in direct competition with the likes of BBC iPlayer. I only won my battle thanks to Backlash’ legal advise and their indefatigable solicitors. Please read on, share, and most important, donate to Backlash so they can carry on defending freedom of sexual expression.

Dominatrix wins David and Goliath battle against regulators

Do you produce and publish adult online videos in the United Kingdom? have you already been targeted by ATVOD? if so, please read this, share, comment, and help me raise awareness among the fetish community in UK.
As many of you who are my friends and fans know, I have been fighting a year long battle against ATVOD’s determinations for a long year. I only received Ofcom’s decision that my members’ Femdom website The Urban Chick Supremacy Cell, was not a TV on Demand service, in direct competition with (will you believe it?), BBC iPlayer, Sky, and the like.

They have been specially nasty in decimating Femdom themed websites. Apparently, women’s sexual agency is specially dangerous, or abhorrent, to them.

It was only possible thanks to Backlash’s offering to represent me legally to unravel the very twisted, very anti-porn ATVOD agenda. They operate with a mixture of threats that one thought only existed in a Scorsese film, and putting a spin to existing laws, where they make you sound as if you are breaking the law by providing adult videos behind a pay-wall. To top it all and to ensure that you will obey, they suggest that your ‘service” is deliberately allowing children to view your adult content. Because that’s what porn producers do, peddle smut to the children.

Let’s censor, clamp down and regulate the internet! When I first received ATVOD’s initial extortion letter, demanding a fee and suggesting that I was in breach of the OPA (Obscene Publications Act), and pimping porn to children, I thought it was an hoax. Their claims and accusations are so ridiculous, I had to double check with a lawyer. So I contacted Backlash, who quickly spotted ATVOD’s malicious game, bent on closing down the perfectly legal UK adult video industry.

But while I present battle, dozens of studios closed down in fear of such accusations. Not one of them fought back, and to my knowledge, not other adult studio has won in their appeals to ATVOD. They are very successful at instilling fear in us, making us believe that we are shady, almost criminal industry that operates illegally and has nor regard for minors, its performers, or ethics. They think we feel guilty and have sexual shame.

There is nothing to be ashamed of. Stand up if you are an adult producer or performer in UK. If you have been targeted by ATVOD, contact Backlash’s legal team

This has been a great triumph for anti-censorship and to preserve freedom of information on the internet. Remember that the UK government are only using porn and the “think of the children!” moral panic, to clamp down on all freedom of information on the internet. Their goal is to clamp down free access to information and communication in UK. Their aim is to censor.

Here is also, one of my solicitor’s account of the case, on the Backlash website: Dominatrix beats ATVOD into submission

So whether you are a UK adult content producer, an adult performer, a user or a person who believes in freedom of the internet and respect of alternative sexualities, donate to Backlash UK generously.

But we need to carry on fighting. ATVOD’s last letter, discharging my website, UC-SC, had still an ominous coda where they warned that as and if regulations may change, I might fall foul of their agenda again. A caution o let me know that they are working hard at destroying UK adult industry. Because this is their one and only real agenda.

They’ll be back. I won my battle, but we haven’t still won the war against censorship. So please support Backlash UK, the only organisation who actively fights freedom of sexual expression and artistic freedom on the internet.

Ms Tytania in the media

I generally keep a very low profile in the BDSM scene. I’ve never been keen on “appearances”, fawning entourages, or assaulted by eagerness to attend the opening of an envelope. I haven’t been to a fetish club in ages and I don’t seek that fake demi-celebrity status that being a pro-Domme seems to give you as soon as you have a shop window in the internet. I do enjoy private play aprties (specially those organized by myself), but in general, i am a private kinkster.

In ten years as a professional Dominatrix, I’ve been approached by the media on a good number on occassions. Sometimes for TV, sometimes for magazines. They all introduce themselves with the same story: “we are working on a feature that will present BDSM/kink/sexuality/professional domination form a different angle, in a different, more sympathetic light, to a wider audience. We are very interested in your opinion, your experience, your point of view, because it’s not the archetypal whips and chains shocker setting”. I’ve always declined.

Eventually, another Pro-Domme/s I know or know about, agrees to work with them. The results are always the same. Because the TV or magazine/newspapers have the last say in the editing of the final product, the pro-Domme is presented in a way that she wasn’t intending. I gave up long ago on the hope of using these opportunities as a platform to be heard and to dispel myths. They twist and re-interpret your voice to their onw end and  aenda (wow, th media do that? No crap, Mistress!”, I hear you say :)). They rarely end up manufacturing the product they promised to you. As I heard Zoe Margolis saying the other day at the Eroticon 2013 Conference, the media always has the upper hand. One reason is because the people who approach us, are outsiders to BDSM. They say they know nothing about our world and want us to present it in our own words, but that’s a fallacy. They may not nothing of its reality, but they have an opinion and mental image, before they even contact me. And this fictional idea of BDSM as whips and chains for freaks, always prevails, it’s usually a very stereotypical view that triumphs.

In my opinion, TV and the media are simply bread and circus, nothing more. they aren’t interested in “whowing your world in a sympatheitc light”. They are only interested in their shock hungry audiences and we kinky people, are perfect victims to throw into the lion’s jaws.

And the stereoype is what is going to prevail. When the interview goes into the editing room or page, they invariably choose what sounds familiar, what seems to make sense with a popular misconceptions of Pro-fessionsl Dominance, kink, or BDSM. The media want to reassure their public, not to challenge it. Every time someone else accepted to be on TV or a amgazine, that’s how they came acroiss.

This time, however, and after meeting with the producers for a real life meeting, it felt a little different. I’m probablyjust being naive, but I decided to give  them the benefit of the doubt. so I’ve said yes to collaborating on a TV program on “alternative sexualities” – yes, tentatively- to a project for a major TV channel. They want me to be some sort of :expert consultant” on a feature about kidnapping fetishes. I’ve been doing a bit of that lately with The Femdom Bloc and yes, I think I know my stuff. But do they know theirs? So I’ve decided to take the plunge and say yes. Even if I have veto over the final script, I know I hae no veto over the final edited product. so fingers crossed.

Next time you see another cliche ridden program on those freaky kinky people on TV, who knows, it may partly be my fault. Blame Ms Tytania for selling out to the paps.

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